There is this saying that ‘love is blind’; that
saying is correct in every bit of the word
because when you’re in love with someone,
you tend to see things from a different
perspective which only you can relate with,
and sometimes that could even mean shying
away from reality.
The sweet thing about getting married is
staying married and not just staying married
but enjoying being married, but all these
won’t be possible if the man you say ‘I do’ to
turns out not to be worth it.
Women tend to endure so many things
during courtship with the hope that the man
would change after marriage.
Below are 6 important things every woman
should consider before saying I do:
- IS HE PROMISCUOUS ?
Women date a promiscuous man and end up
getting married to the man with the hope
that he would change after marriage; that’s
actually a difficult notion. If he’s the
unfaithful type then you just might be in for
a lot when you finally get settled with him.
Marriage doesn’t come with a magic wand
that would just give you anything you wish
for; if your man can’t curb his promiscuous
lifestyle before marriage then you should be
ready to either have a rethink before it’s too
late or settle with his lifestyle in marriage.
- IS HE VIOLENT ON YOU ?
If he has hit you during the courtship era
then that’s a feat you wouldn’t want to
receive continually when you get married to
him. This is one thing women fail to consider
before marriage, but end up regretting after
saying ‘I do’. If he used you as his punching
bag when you were dating then don’t expect
different when you get married to him.
Remember the wise saying “a leopard
doesn’t lose its spot overnight”.
- HOW MUCH DOES HE ACTUALLY LOVE
YOU ?
This is important! This is important! This is
important! If he didn’t really show you
enough love when you were dating then you
shouldn’t expect any better when married.
Yes he proposed to you; yes, he wants to get
married to you; but it definitely doesn’t end
there, there are a lot of married women who
feel lonely, dejected and lack love and
support from their man. You just have to be
sure that you are committing your future to
someone who loves you.
- DOES HE RESPECT YOU?
Trust me when I say you won’t love to be
continually disrespected in your marriage.
You shouldn’t expect much from a man that
doesn’t treat you with respect; your man
should respect you, your body, your opinions
and you should take part in the decision
making; anything to the contrary to these
might show that he doesn’t actually have
that much respect for you.
- IS HE HONEST OR USUALLY DECEITFUL ?
If he lies to you in the course of the
relationship, and he lies time without number
then you are heading into the kind of
marriage where you just can’t trust your
man. Trust makes a marriage beautiful –
when it’s lacking, it gives room to loopholes
which would lead to all manner of atrocities.
- HIS PAST
I was going to write on 5 important things to
consider but my mind got opened to this
while rounding up this article, and this is one
thing many women take for granted. You just
have to know the man you are getting
married to in and out. A lot of women have
fallen by getting married to criminals, child
molesters and men with all manner of
negative lifestyles, including men who go
around duping rich women in the name of
marriage. You shouldn’t get married to a
man who wouldn’t be open to you with
everything about him. We once carried a
report on aman who tricked women into
marriage under the disguise of being a CIA
agent. Know who you are getting married to
before saying you do.
Marriage is a beautiful thing, but a bitter
marriage is the worst thing on earth any
woman could wish for.
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